Appreciation And The Art Of Appreciation

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Words to appreciate: “Good job!” , “You are amazing!”, “Wonderful effort”, “That was courageous of you”, “Good attempt, try again”, “Your endeavors are paying off”, “Continue to good work you are doing”.

Have you looked at the face of a person when you said these things to them?

So happy, and beaming with joy isn’t it!

That person will go back and do even better after these words of appreciation.

Whether in the case of a child, a youth or adults like mothers and fathers – parents, it is not very different.

For words of appreciation have the power to elevate the spirit of an individual. The reason to develop the art of appreciation.

Elated with delight, and a sense of accomplishment, that individual now becomes capable of attaining and achieving much more.

That is the power of appreciation!

Appreciating

Appreciation is important for people in all walks of life.

Appreciating others can be simple as saying “Your help is appreciated“.

Before we get into the details of appreciation, it is important to understand that appreciation is different from recognition.

Appreciation is not result oriented. A person can be appreciated for the effort he put towards achieving a goal. Success or failure does not have to be linked to the act of appreciation.

For example, a child who is learning to walk is appreciated for the effort. An athlete running on track after recovering from an injury is appreciated for his spirit.

When a couple hosts their first ever thanksgiving dinner, they are appreciated for their willingness to take forward a family tradition.

The act of appreciation is not linked to how fast the child learns to walk, whether the athlete comes first in the race, or the number of dishes the couple serves for dinner.

There are many aspects of appreciation and we will talk about some of them in this article.

Appreciation And Children

Children look at parents yearning for some words of appreciation. When they are appreciated for certain behaviour, their chances of repeating those behaviours increases.

A well appreciated child learns the importance of appreciation and hence inculcates the habit of appreciation.This in turn helps him or her in having a better social life.

Appreciation At Home

Every member of a family has a role to play in the family. Unfortunately a lot of effort put forth by the family members is taken for granted and is not even considered worth appreciation. This often results in discord and disharmony in the family.

Home cooked meals need not always taste like restaurant cooked food. But the person who puts in effort to ensure there is food on the table, deserved appreciation.

The house one lives in need not be a dream home, but people who put in hours of hard work to ensure there is a place to call home, deserve appreciation.

It enables them to keep working harder. If everyone at home receives the appreciation they deserve, there will be no need for people to look for appreciation from outside.

Appreciation At The Workplace

Lack of appreciation is one of the main reasons why employees quit organizations.

Even if they are paid well and given a lot of other perks, if they don’t feel appreciated for their efforts, they can get totally unmotivated at a place.

Appreciation makes a person feel cared for and valued.

You could be an athlete trying hard to score points for your team. Or a company executive trying to meet your revenue targets. You could be on the front line meeting challenges to preserve your viability or your operations.

If you are part of a team or organization where there is a lot of give and take of appreciation, your chance of succeeding in your job is higher. Your chance of working for that company for longer is higher.

Appreciating Others

We always tend to appreciate what we have in hindsight.

The people we have in our lives, the opportunities that have opened up for us, the successes we have had and the failures that have taught us. It is important for us to show gratitude for, and appreciate all of these.

By appreciating others genuinely, we empower and inspire them.

A lot of times, it is easier for a friend or a family member to see the effort put in by a person to achieve something.

While the person putting in the effort might get caught up in the task itself or become too critical of oneself, family and friends’ appreciation can become the guiding light for him.

By appreciating parents, children, team members and friends, we build a solid support system around us.

Nobody wants to let go of a friend or family member who is appreciative of others.

However, it is important to make sure that the words of appreciation are genuine and not fake. In order to come up with genuine appreciation, we must be aware of what the other person is doing and be invested in their life. This forms a strong bond between individuals.

Appreciating Oneself

Appreciating others can be so much more easier than appreciating oneself.

When it comes to ourselves, we always feel that we could have done better. It never seems satisfactory. But, it is a good idea to NOT be overly critical about oneself.

We have to take out time to celebrate achievements and efforts that one has put into one’s own life.

It can be with regard to relationships, work, studies, social work etc.

Treating oneself like how one would treat their best friend, and appreciating oneself the way one would appreciate one’s best friend would be a good habit to inculcate.

Reacting To Appreciation

Most of us don’t know how to react to appreciation.

The main reason for this being we do not appreciate ourselves for the work we did or the effort we put in.

We sometimes also wonder if they are being genuine or if it is just flattery. The only way to handle this is by reacting in the same way to every word of appreciation you receive.

By just thanking them for the appreciation and then evaluating our own achievements and efforts in a very uncritical manner.

Appreciation And Action

When we appreciate something, we feel inclined to learn more about it, or do something about it.

For example, a person who appreciates music, spends time, effort and money to listen to music, or play an instrument or support an artist.

If a person appreciates organic farming, he will probably learn to grow his own vegetables or at least make sure he supports organic farmers at his local farmer’s market.

Hence appreciation is not limited to praising a person’s abilities and achievements. It extends to taking action in a certain direction, and appreciation forms the basis of that action.

One of the most beautiful gifts in the world is the gift of encouragement. When someone encourages you, that person helps you over a threshold you might otherwise never have crossed on your own. John O'Donohue

I Appreciate You For

I appreciate you for …

is such a powerful statement. When said to the right person at the right time, this can help you take a relationship to a whole new level.

I appreciate you for …

is such a soothing statement to hear. It can help give strength to a person who was almost giving up on his or her efforts.

I appreciate you for …

is such a significant statement that it can build an association or connection with a strong foundation.

These are examples of ‘I appreciate you for‘ statements that we can use in our lives.

  • I appreciate you for taking care of me, the house and our family.
  • I appreciate you for supporting me to follow my dreams.
  • I appreciate you for always being there.
  • I appreciate you for understanding me and giving me space.
  • I appreciate you for putting in your best foot forward.
  • I appreciate you for your hard work.
  • I appreciate you for trusting me and standing by me.
  • I appreciate you for showing up.
  • I appreciate you for asking how I am doing.
  • I appreciate you for letting me know.
  • I appreciate you for giving me your opinion.

I Appreciate That You

Another way of saying an appreciation statement would be ‘I appreciate you for

  • I appreciate that you consider me a friend.
  • I appreciate that you followed up with me.
  • I appreciate that you care.
  • I appreciate that you passed on the information.
  • I appreciate that you anticipated a problem.
  • I appreciate that you made time for me.
  • I appreciate that you are trying your best.
  • I appreciate that you did not give up.
  • I appreciate that you stood up for a friend.
  • I appreciate that you listened to my suggestion.

No matter how you say, what you say, to whom you say, and where you say, it is important to mean every word you say.

If the relationship is important to you, it is important that you learn to observe and appreciate the other person.

The other person could be your partner, friend, spouse, colleague, subordinate or your superior. It could even be your parent, child or neighbor.

Words of appreciation such as “Your help is appreciated“, “Thank you for your support“, can act like pixie dust when sprinkled on relationships. It works like magic. Just make sure the pixie dust is genuine and authentic.

Definition Of Appreciate

First Friday in March is celebrated as Employee Appreciation Day in the US.

We all celebrate Friendship Day, Father’s Day, Mother’s Day, Valentine’s Day etc., to show our appreciation for the people who are so important in our lives.

The key here is to carry the spirit of those celebrations and make it a habit to appreciate and acknowledge the effort of every individual in our life. Especially those who we value and cherish.

The definition of Appreciate or to define appreciate is to recognize the full worth of someone, or to be grateful for something or someone.

When we truly recognize the value of someone and are grateful for that, we will learn to be truly appreciative of that person.

That sense of appreciation need not be something in hindsight. That sense can be something that we have right now.

We can all cultivate that sense or art of appreciation for each other, making a huge impact on one another’s life.

Such is the art of empowerment and mastering the art of living.

I appreciate you for reading this article. I appreciate it!

Contributors: Deepa Kadavakat and Kazim Abasali